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Are you struggling with doubt and despair? If so please trust me when I tell you that you are definitely NOT alone! I have walked down the dark paths you are treading and I completely understand what you feel. I swear to you, as one who has "been there" to the "bottom of the bottom", that there IS a way to the other side. Keep reading and I will tell you the hard-earned secret of where your despair really comes from- and how you can be free of it forever!
It takes maximum courage- and love- to stop spanking our kids. Its what we were taught and what so many of us went through ourselves! And it brings up painful feelings to "break the chain" and deal emotionally with what we feel from spanking (often guilt/shame/deep sorrow and regret) and having been hit ourselves (anger/hurt/confusion). People who end the cycle of violence are heroes- plain and simple!
Self-love and total self-acceptance is much more than an abstract philosophy. It changes- for the better- the way you think, feel and act every day. It brings great pleasure to your body, peace to your mind and happiness to your spirit. It is a Way of life and love- that WORKS!
I don't believe that anyone has described, in vivid detail, what I am about to describe to you. And that is the actual bodily and emotional experience of Unconditional Self-Love! I hope that you have as much fun reading this as I have had in writing it. And that what you read inspires and motivates you to open yourself to all the joy and aliveness waiting inside you!
Here is another "spiritually incorrect" truth which- when you completely embrace it- will liberate you to love and believe in yourself completely. Simply expressed, it is this: All of your emotions are completely valid and given to you by Mother Nature for life-affirming reasons. In other words, when we truly grasp what each of our emotions are for- how they are meant to serve us- we wake up and realize that THERE ARE NO "NEGATIVE" EMOTIONS! Therefore you can finally stop feeling guilty, ashamed or afraid of genuine feelings you have that your family, society and religion told you are "wrong".
The new idea of having total tenderness and empathy for yourself- from within- is at the core of the Self-Love revolution. The revelation of Self-Love proclaims for the first time that we can go beyond all of our past conditioning- from our families, our societies, our cultures and our religions- to claim our birthright of happiness by being unconditionally loving Mothers and Fathers to ourselves!
"Transference" is the term used to describe how what we experienced with Mom and Dad gets triggered and relived over and over again as we go through life. For example, we may be furious or humiliated at a remark made by a colleague or friend- never realizing that most of the emotional intensity we feel is fueled from the unhealed humiliations we suffered during childhood! Or we may feel betrayed or abandoned by our friend, our lover- or by Life itself. And never realize that things are not quite what they seem, because we are reacting to the events of the present through the distorted "lens" of our past. This is a problem that everybody in the entire world has- and few even know that they do. People have no idea that their lives- and relationships- are being distorted and damaged by their Mom and Dad "buttons".
Have you ever wondered why it is so much easier to love other people- deeply, madly, truly- than it is to love yourself? If we could feel toward ourselves the same passion, the same admiration, the same tenderness and the same devotion that we so happily give to others- oh how different our lives would be!!
If you want to stop waiting for a state of happiness and fulfillment that you endlessly "put off" to a future that never comes- unconditionally love and believe in yourself. RIGHT NOW! You are perfect JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
Whether your problem is a physical illness, an emotional/mental struggle, a spiritual crisis- or as in my case all of these at once- you will stay on course toward greater and greater health by using "The Six Healers" to guide and channel your efforts. The "Six Healers" will empower you to create your own miracle by connecting you to the Force of Life and Love within. I offer them to you as one who has felt the fear and despair you so often feel, and wrestled with the challenges you face every day. And I say to you- lift up your heart and fear not! Just as I found the answers I needed within myself, I believe with all my heart that you can find them too.
Quite literally the fate of the world rests upon a deeper understanding of what children truly need to flourish emotionally and spiritually.
The world is slowly awakening to the terrible toll that parent-child violence such as spanking or sexual abuse takes. After centuries of complete cultural and social denial we are beginning to come out of denial about how these betrayals of love break childrens' open and trusting hearts wound their innocent spirits But there is an equally grave harm being unwittingly passed from generation to generation. And the cleansing light of compassion and awareness needs to shine upon it as well. Verbal humiliation, emotional manipulation, power games by the parents to bend the child to their will/needs/expectations can be just as damaging as physical abuse/spanking and sexual abuse. These non-physical traumas are not as highly publicized or understood as the physical ones- and this can make it very difficult for the adult who is chronically anxious/depressed/self-doubting/unhappy to point to something concrete and know why they are in the pain they are in.....
A common sense example I use to awaken people about the complete indefensibility of spanking is this- it is an actual crime, punishable by law, to strike one's spouse/partner. And many relationships end after one and only one such incident. We instinctively understand why this is so- the fear, sense of betrayal and loss of trust can be irreparable. Society supports such a reaction to physical abuse in a romantic relationship. Yet far worse is done repeatedly to children and is defended as "healthy discipline". The curse of spanking must finally be ended and harmless, effective and constructive ways of setting boundaries- of which there are many for those willing to make the effort and learn- need to be employed. No child deserves to be physically struck for any reason...... PERIOD! And this includes the precious and innocent child that you once were!
We are currently in an era where our thoughts and mind are regarded- even worshipped- as the key to life and the cutting edge of spiritual enlightenment. But perhaps you have observed as I have that those who make a God of the mind are no more beyond their emotional difficulties, capable of loving and being loved, sexually free and satisfied or filled with life and happiness than other people. For this reason I believe that the future of spirituality will be taking a very different direction. To awaken the love and happiness we long for, to claim our birthright of sexual joy and sensual fulfillment, to resolve our emotional conflicts and awaken lasting inner peace the future of spirituality will be about joyfully re-connecting with OUR BODIES!
It's a wonderful truth that Self-Love radiates outward- one enlightened heart to another- and carries the message of hope around the world to all who have been waiting for it! And we are ALL waiting for it!
As I have tried to illustrate in my new posts- "Life is not Suffering" and "Self-Love Versus Karma: Trust Your Heart!"- the religious and spiritual beliefs we are taught are of crucial importance. Because we use them to understand who we are and "make sense" out of life they can be a great help in setting ourselves free- or chains that keep us in guilt, shame and ignorance. Any one who grew up with "Catholic guilt" about their sexuality, Hindu guilt over believing you have a "karmic debt" from past lives, or Buddhist guilt over the natural, healthy and self-respecting anger Mother Nature gave you (anger is seen as ignorance in Buddhism) needs to - as in the Matrix- take the "red pill" and free their minds. For all self-defeating spiritual and religious beliefs that weigh you down substitute this simple mantra: "There is NOTHING wrong with me- and there never has been"!
I cannot look at a pure, precious and innocent newborn child and believe for a second that he/she has come into this world with any weight of 'karma"- the slightest speck of debt, burden or need to atone. Can you? Does this seem shocking or sacreligeous to some of you? No disrespect intended (honestly) but GOOD! Maybe you are being "shaken awake" with this vibration of faith, passion and open-hearted love. Keep reading! Throughout history our minds have invented many spellbinding theories- like all the esoteric beliefs about "past lives", "choosing" dysfunctional parents so we can atone for our imagined past wrongs or "learn lessons" etc.. But the heart holds our deepest truth, and my heart KNOWS that every child is born totally innocent. Period! The love in my heart tells me so- and I'm going with my heart every time!
What I am about to say I maintain with the utmost passion and conviction. Awakening to the fact that we were born fully capable of happiness, and that it is our dysfunctional childhoods and not self-defeating illusions such as Original Sin, "karmic shadows/lessons from past lives" or an inevitable Buddhist "ego" that are driving our problems, is the next frontier in spirituality. This "quantum leap" in our self-understanding is the equivalent of science evolving beyond the notion that "evil spirits" cause infections and recognizing the actual cause in microbes. The "evil spirits" theory may have had some usefulness but treating the germ is far more exact- and successful! Makes sense?