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Are you struggling with doubt and despair? If so please trust me when I tell you that you are definitely NOT alone! I have walked down the dark paths you are treading and I completely understand what you feel. I swear to you, as one who has "been there" to the "bottom of the bottom", that there IS a way to the other side. Keep reading and I will tell you the hard-earned secret of where your despair really comes from- and how you can be free of it forever!
It takes maximum courage- and love- to stop spanking our kids. Its what we were taught and what so many of us went through ourselves! And it brings up painful feelings to "break the chain" and deal emotionally with what we feel from spanking (often guilt/shame/deep sorrow and regret) and having been hit ourselves (anger/hurt/confusion). People who end the cycle of violence are heroes- plain and simple!
Self-love and total self-acceptance is much more than an abstract philosophy. It changes- for the better- the way you think, feel and act every day. It brings great pleasure to your body, peace to your mind and happiness to your spirit. It is a Way of life and love- that WORKS!
I don't believe that anyone has described, in vivid detail, what I am about to describe to you. And that is the actual bodily and emotional experience of Unconditional Self-Love! I hope that you have as much fun reading this as I have had in writing it. And that what you read inspires and motivates you to open yourself to all the joy and aliveness waiting inside you!
Here is another "spiritually incorrect" truth which- when you completely embrace it- will liberate you to love and believe in yourself completely. Simply expressed, it is this: All of your emotions are completely valid and given to you by Mother Nature for life-affirming reasons. In other words, when we truly grasp what each of our emotions are for- how they are meant to serve us- we wake up and realize that THERE ARE NO "NEGATIVE" EMOTIONS! Therefore you can finally stop feeling guilty, ashamed or afraid of genuine feelings you have that your family, society and religion told you are "wrong".
The new idea of having total tenderness and empathy for yourself- from within- is at the core of the Self-Love revolution. The revelation of Self-Love proclaims for the first time that we can go beyond all of our past conditioning- from our families, our societies, our cultures and our religions- to claim our birthright of happiness by being unconditionally loving Mothers and Fathers to ourselves!
"Transference" is the term used to describe how what we experienced with Mom and Dad gets triggered and relived over and over again as we go through life. For example, we may be furious or humiliated at a remark made by a colleague or friend- never realizing that most of the emotional intensity we feel is fueled from the unhealed humiliations we suffered during childhood! Or we may feel betrayed or abandoned by our friend, our lover- or by Life itself. And never realize that things are not quite what they seem, because we are reacting to the events of the present through the distorted "lens" of our past. This is a problem that everybody in the entire world has- and few even know that they do. People have no idea that their lives- and relationships- are being distorted and damaged by their Mom and Dad "buttons".
Have you ever wondered why it is so much easier to love other people- deeply, madly, truly- than it is to love yourself? If we could feel toward ourselves the same passion, the same admiration, the same tenderness and the same devotion that we so happily give to others- oh how different our lives would be!!
Empathy is a beautiful aspect of our miraculous capacity for love. We can define empathy as the ability to intuitively sense- with warmth and caring- what another person is feeling. Empathy between people is major aspect of "feeling connected". Where there is empathy there is no rejection, no judgement, no "stranger". In empathy there is an kindness that heals and unites us. Without this blessed capacity of our hearts to touch and hold each other's inner selves, life would be very lonely indeed! Just as empathy is an essential aspect of loving and connecting with another person, so is our ability to be empathetic toward ourselves central to the ability to love ourselves unconditionally. So allow me to ask you the all-important question- how much empathy do you have for YOU?
If you want to stop waiting for a state of happiness and fulfillment that you endlessly "put off" to a future that never comes- unconditionally love and believe in yourself. RIGHT NOW! You are perfect JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!
The broken-hearted emptiness of our disappointed need for love is buried in the body and unconscious mind. And iike all of our unhealed and unconscious conflicts, we "transfer" the unfulfilled needs onto people, things- and philosophies. I firmly believe that this is why books like "The Secret" are so seductive and attractive to so many. People are trained to believe that "filling themselves" with achievements and external "goods" will make them happy. So the hope and ideology that we can "manifest" everything we desire draws us like a moth to a flame.
Your soul is always "pulling in" the grace you need- a person, an experience, a lesson, an awakening or even a Facebook post- to get more healed and more free. We can best notice- and be receptive to the benefits of- the big and small miracles flowing toward us when we are in a relaxed, open-hearted and centered place. But whether our hearts are in a heaven or struggling through hell, the stream of grace is flowing either way!
Whether your problem is a physical illness, an emotional/mental struggle, a spiritual crisis- or as in my case all of these at once- you will stay on course toward greater and greater health by using "The Six Healers" to guide and channel your efforts. The "Six Healers" will empower you to create your own miracle by connecting you to the Force of Life and Love within. I offer them to you as one who has felt the fear and despair you so often feel, and wrestled with the challenges you face every day. And I say to you- lift up your heart and fear not! Just as I found the answers I needed within myself, I believe with all my heart that you can find them too.
Quite literally the fate of the world rests upon a deeper understanding of what children truly need to flourish emotionally and spiritually.
The world is slowly awakening to the terrible toll that parent-child violence such as spanking or sexual abuse takes. After centuries of complete cultural and social denial we are beginning to come out of denial about how these betrayals of love break childrens' open and trusting hearts wound their innocent spirits But there is an equally grave harm being unwittingly passed from generation to generation. And the cleansing light of compassion and awareness needs to shine upon it as well. Verbal humiliation, emotional manipulation, power games by the parents to bend the child to their will/needs/expectations can be just as damaging as physical abuse/spanking and sexual abuse. These non-physical traumas are not as highly publicized or understood as the physical ones- and this can make it very difficult for the adult who is chronically anxious/depressed/self-doubting/unhappy to point to something concrete and know why they are in the pain they are in.....