I'm Tired

No, not "please let me relax". Rather, "I am going to relax!" It is a subtle difference, but a huge one as well. If you wait for others to give you permission to relax, to have fun or take care of yourself, you may be waiting a long time. This is a problem many of us struggle with - feeling we have a right to stand up for ourselves, feeling we deserve something we want. I believe that until we all begin to treat ourselves the way we need to be treated, (treating ourselves with love, kindness and respect) no one else will either. You are not loving yourself if you always give in. You are not respecting yourself if you do something you didn't really want to do. You are not being kind to yourself if you don't take time to rest and relax. I firmly believe these kinds of issues are not about the people around us, but about ourselves. How we treat ourselves and what we believe we deserve. Begin by promising yourself you will start taking better care of yourself, then no matter what comes up, do one thing each day that reflects that choice. See how good it feels!

It's tough finding a way to please the world, almost impossible actually. We forget to give ourselves permission to say, "no". Trying to grow up a responsible, caring adult is hard work and you deserve a break today. Be 16 and play, just for today. Then tomorrow you can please someone else if you want to. Thank you for sharing with us.

Deva,
First, I am glad to see that you are usng the site outside of class. It is human to desire to please others and wish for them to be fulfilled by your selfless acts; however, it is eaqually important that you take time out for yourself and seek guidance from your Higher power. One of the most fulfilling things that I do is to give back to others. Nonetheless, I understand that sometimes I have to take time out for me.

Deva i understand where you are coming from these are people you love and they treat you like this but i think the best you do is sit down with these people that are making you tired and say look i have a problem with the way you are doing this when i give you 100% of everything that i do and you are only give me 10%

I think its about time for a change.

Gosh Deva, we all get tired and frustrated. Hey thats normal. Just take
time to relax and think. Find a quiet and beautful place. Remember
mother nature heals and asks nothing in return....God Bless...
(And P.S. No need to break down or even think about it, all works out
thats the beauty of life...)

beeeeeee selfish!!!! don't hurt others, but take care of yourself!! thanks so much for sharing!

Hi Deva,
You can try to set up some time daily for 'YOU' time. This could be an hour a day where no one is allowed to ask of you, and you are allowed to say 'No'
I have found that sometimes you have to get away physically before you can relax mentally. Is there somewhere you like to walk or maybe ride a bike? Do you have a hooby that you enjoy?
*Don't hesitate...take care of yourself now! Try not to overthink how you are going to be thought of negatively if you say 'No' to a task. Besides, there are other ways to respond. You could say something like, "I am not able to help you at the moment, is this something that we can deal with later or another day?" I have learned that people are not as upset with us as we think if we say No. I have a hard time with this myself and usually wind up taking care of too much and start feeling resentful.

Please be encoraged. Don't let anyone make you snap. Far to often young people change their life and go into a negative direction by making the wrong decesion. Just take one day at a time. You're not in this life alone. God has not forgotten about you.

OOps here i go again~ In a big hurry **Kick Butt*