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<channel><title><![CDATA[Blog4Change.org - Comments for article: You survived...Now you can thrive!]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org</link><description /><language>en-us</language><copyright><![CDATA[http://www.blog4change.org]]></copyright><generator>N/A</generator><webMaster>webmaster@blog4change.org</webMaster><lastBuildDate>Wed, 10 Jun 2026 03:29:29 UTC</lastBuildDate><ttl>20</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[You survived...Now you can thrive!]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment4664</link><description><![CDATA[Call it a going away party. Let the people who need a fuenral with the casket there and all that stuff have it, then hold a separate going away party afterward. This will be the time that everyone can get together and share stories about your mom, and how she touched their lives. Some people need to have a somber ceremony to really acknowledge the person has died. Others, like yourself just need a time to relax and celebrate the good life and times they had with the person. Play music that she liked at both services. Your father has the final say on what happens, please remember this. You can hold your own type of  wake   get together   celebration of life  etc on your own. Everyone grieves and remembers someone close to them in their own way.I'm very sorry for your loss, I hope I've helped you find an idea that will fit your need<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Himakshi at 4:43 pm, Mon 24th Aug 2015]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Himakshi)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Mon, 24 Aug 2015 16:43:49 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment4664</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[You survived...Now you can thrive!]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment738</link><description><![CDATA[Good article my friend.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Precioustally at 10:14 pm, Wed 28th Oct 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Precioustally)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 28 Oct 2009 22:14:55 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment738</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[You survived...Now you can thrive!]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment683</link><description><![CDATA[I just recently found my friend's brother was sexually abused.  I asked her if she felt comfortable telling me what happened.  She said he didn't confess the details.  She said it probably was for the best, because she'd be afraid to know...

How sad!  So what is this survivor supposed to do?  Go on living with the pain I know he feels inside of what some kind of creep did to him, whenever it was, or how long ago it was?

Why oh why aren't there places for men to go to---back in day there were no battered women's shelters, women had to put up with their emotional, physical abuse by themselves, cope with it themselves.  

Now they have shelters, they have houses that take them in.  They have someone who will care for them.  That's fantastic.

But it's about time---as a matter of fact---it's way overdue to have a place in every town just for male sexual abuse vicitims to come and talk about what has happened to them, instead of holding it inside, holding in the shame that does NOT belong to them, because whatever happened, WAS NOT THEIR FAULT!  

And let them know, above all, THEY ARE NOT ALONE!  There are so many out there, no one can imagine.  

I had another friend a few months ago, inform me he was sexually abused by a wonderful family friend---He also told me that I was the only person he has told.  He, again, did not tell me the details, just that "getting it out", by telling me HIS SECRET has even dispelled some of the pain he has carried inside for so many years!

Imagine that!  Imagine, yourself, being a vicitim of sexual abuse---okay, now imagine hiding this secret inside for years.  You will remember it out of the blue, even though you so desperately want to forget it.  It'll haunt you in flashbacks, in nightmares, and sometimes ruin relationships within your family, in your life that you're trying to get ahold of.  

So, please get help!  Go to www.malesurvivor.org

Or, the site above listed.  You will make it....And you will be okay!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Tender Heart at 10:14 am, Sun 11th Oct 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Tender Heart)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 11 Oct 2009 10:14:01 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/717/1/You-survivedNow-you-can-thrive/Page1.html#Comment683</guid></item></channel></rss>