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<channel><title><![CDATA[Blog4Change.org - Comments for article: I feel it's my fault, but it's not.]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org</link><description /><language>en-us</language><copyright><![CDATA[http://www.blog4change.org]]></copyright><generator>N/A</generator><webMaster>webmaster@blog4change.org</webMaster><lastBuildDate>Sat, 13 Jun 2026 04:50:11 UTC</lastBuildDate><ttl>20</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[I feel it's my fault, but it's not.]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/281/1/I-feel-its-my-fault-but-its-not/Page1.html#Comment378</link><description><![CDATA[Exactly right Kim, I don't think Spitfire has enough "good" around her right now- so hopefully more & more people will visit this site and be fast or be it slow, spread the word. 
I would try to see the financial side a little differently- maybe a brief outline of my story will help you, Yes there are people who are greedy out there- but I am a strong believer in what goes around comes around. Sadly, not all people have chosen to take "silly" mortgages, loans etc...  I have a mortgage and bought my house with my partner in 2002. We took on a very modest mortgage- and basically spent 3 years prior to that eating bread and jam lol so we could put down a good deposit. We really do take borrowing seriously i.e neither of us have a credit card- and never have. We do not re-mortgage to take holidays in the Med, we have 2 cars- we worked hard and paid for them out-right. etc... My biggest downfall is probably giving too much away! lol I jest you not. So, life was good- we do not feel the pressure to "keep up with the Jonses" as they say, we buy things when we can actually afford them and try to lead the best life we can. We both had good jobs working about 90 hours per week between us............ Then out of the blue and WHAM did our life get turned upside down! I was rushed into hospital- only to be told I had a kidney infection- to then be told I had an auto-immune disease! basically my immune system was fighting me- I was 26, I now have multiple joint arthritis, psoriatic arthropathy, kidney & urology issues- and I had 2 MRI scans last week as they are now looking at MS- my memory is now awful, balance etc... My partner has to stay home and care for me- I'm now 29. I will not bore you with the effect that has had on our lives and this isnt a sob story as the amount of positives that have arisen from this situation are untrue- Im a different person- I am able to help/understand others much more - and I feel generally able to have a better opinion on things- but the effect is pretty huge. 
So- this should be a good story for people in my situation also- it isnt all bad, you find yourself again with the help of others and you start to get there. I have now chosen to take a degree in psychology in order to go into the health care sector and help people with mental illnesses- I was a business manager prior to this- and pretty much only able to influence paperwork and supermarkets! Take an open view, be the best you can and enjoy...
I hope that makes sense... I really wanted to reply before I went over to my parents lol Take Care xxx<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Louey at 8:35 am, Mon 13th Jul 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Louey)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Mon, 13 Jul 2009 08:35:12 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/281/1/I-feel-its-my-fault-but-its-not/Page1.html#Comment378</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[I feel it's my fault, but it's not.]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/281/1/I-feel-its-my-fault-but-its-not/Page1.html#Comment361</link><description><![CDATA[Spitfire, I understand your frustration.  Try not to give too much negative  energy to these things - it only keeps you in a place of anger and frustration.  Try to remember too, that there is NO LESS money in circulation today than there was 10 years ago.  There is plenty of money to go around, plenty for all, but some of the problem is that no one is spending it.  By saving all of it, you keep it out of circulation, stopping the flow.  It is that flow, the receiving and then the giving away, that so important.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Kim DuBois CHt at 10:51 am, Sat 11th Jul 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Kim DuBois CHt)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sat, 11 Jul 2009 10:51:45 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/281/1/I-feel-its-my-fault-but-its-not/Page1.html#Comment361</guid></item></channel></rss>