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<channel><title><![CDATA[Blog4Change.org - Comments for article: SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org</link><description /><language>en-us</language><copyright><![CDATA[http://www.blog4change.org]]></copyright><generator>N/A</generator><webMaster>webmaster@blog4change.org</webMaster><lastBuildDate>Wed, 10 Jun 2026 03:29:15 UTC</lastBuildDate><ttl>20</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4482</link><description><![CDATA[I love you Bryan

I have found you on Alice Miller website in the reader's mail and I am glad I have found you. I have worked for the past two years unraveling the abuse and suffered from Articular Rheumatism at the age of 5 and many other sicknesses and I am a good person my mother was extremely violent and perverse my father is very scary and used me sexually but my mother's lies about her and me is what made me ashamed of me and fearful when I am happy. During these two years of healing I developed strong panic attacks due to unraveling extreme shame at the same time I have a stronger esteem of myself. I have kinda two opposite worlds coexisting one is good happy and very grounded which is my real self me and the world of my mom which is chaotic and sick which i am trying to vomit. Each day is a battle to love ME the more I say I love me the more it hurts in my skin like needles and I want to vomit literally.

I am doing self therapy and I cannot thank you enough about these articles they are lifesavers and by the way sometimes I feel the happiness you describe it is so beautiful. Please keep up these articles.

Can you write about expressing pain and feelings and how to counter guilt and shame while going thru pain.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Mohamed at 4:55 pm, Wed 6th Aug 2014]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Mohamed)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 06 Aug 2014 16:55:53 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4482</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4415</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you very much Grant! And yes- this would be a great exercise for kids- I hope some innovative teachers/educators start to employ it- and the many other Self-Love practices I have posted in m blogs for all to use.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 4:34 am, Sun 12th Jan 2014]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 12 Jan 2014 04:34:59 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4415</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4414</link><description><![CDATA[Love this! What a great way to enrich peoples lives and give them a  scenes of self worth. So valuable to peoples lives. Would like to see this kind of thing taught to our youth in schools.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Grant Holland at 3:19 am, Sun 12th Jan 2014]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Grant Holland)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 12 Jan 2014 03:19:22 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4414</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4388</link><description><![CDATA[You are very welcome Kate!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 5:18 am, Fri 30th Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 30 Aug 2013 05:18:09 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4388</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4387</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you so much Bryan.  I know this will help me enormously and I feel so grateful to you for your generosity in taking the time to write it and share it.  With love
Kate<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Kate at 4:41 am, Fri 30th Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Kate)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 30 Aug 2013 04:41:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4387</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4336</link><description><![CDATA[You are very welcome Nidhi!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 3:44 am, Thu 18th Jul 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 18 Jul 2013 03:44:07 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4336</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4335</link><description><![CDATA[Thank u bryan<br/><br/>
Comment posted by nidhi at 8:43 pm, Wed 17th Jul 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (nidhi)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jul 2013 20:43:38 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4335</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4309</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you very much, for this post. It will help me immensely. Even while reading the post, I was feeling the emotions you described. I needed this,  truly! Merci beaucoup!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Michelle S at 1:06 pm, Sun 26th May 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Michelle S)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 26 May 2013 13:06:20 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4309</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4302</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you Bryan. A truly wonderful post.
I have been meditating on Self-love recently using the mirror technique and the traditional with soft meditive music. Today, I began to feel very negative and irritated.
I went into a ten minute meditation telling myself how much I loved myself and after felt a little better.
Still I could not understand why I felt so low and annoyed at myself until I read your post. Its funny how we are led to these situations of learning and understanding. Now I realise that the negative issues deep within are beginning to surface. At this moment I could fly! Many thanks...
Love and Peace.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Michael James at 11:13 am, Sun 12th May 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Michael James)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 12 May 2013 11:13:52 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4302</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4180</link><description><![CDATA[Thanks. I also have come to realize that my rut is rooted in a deep distrust of my abilities, thoughts, emotions, opinions, decisions, actions. Even thinking about the idea of unconditionally loving myself seems alien and yet at the same time conjures a  very strong desire in me. For us sensitive types the lack or inadequate level of recognition or attachment early in life can lead to deep deep emotional scars. Thanks to Bryan and loving people like him we all have another chance to find unconditional love, this time from within. Thanks.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by John Forde at 9:22 pm, Thu 28th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (John Forde)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 28 Feb 2013 21:22:35 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4180</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4181</link><description><![CDATA[HI JOHN- You are very welcome! Truly loving and accepting yourself, and deeply trusting yourself, renews your good feelings/well-being every day. It makes you happy just to be alive, because you are happy being YOU. The confidence, inner peace, emotional security/freedom from fear and joy in living we all strive for will be found to the degree that we love and believe in ourselves. I'm so glad that you have looked within and connected with your desire to love yourself- even if that feels a bit "alien" at first. Never give up, keep reaching for and affirming/accepting yourself and I promise that your happiness will grow and grow! LOTS OF LOVE- BRIAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan at 3:55 am, Fri 1st Mar 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 01 Mar 2013 03:55:26 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4181</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4175</link><description><![CDATA[Hi Bryan and the whole self love community!  I love what you are doing here!  We, our higher selves, are fragments of the divine - the highest form of love energy in creation.  I feel that it is our primary purpose in this incarnation to dissolve the barriers between our embodied selves and our higher selves which are expressions of divine love = )  These barriers are dense energies that we inherit through genetics and other sources that reside in our subconscious and influence our beliefs about our selves and our world, and subsequently our experience life in our world.  

My friend and I have developed a system of commands (affirmations) coupled with brain wave entrainment audio that gets the brain into a deep meditative state where you can reprogram your subconscious to a love vibration much more quickly and effectively.  

Thank you Brian for the work that you do and the love that you are bringing into our world!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Dugan at 11:37 am, Fri 22nd Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Dugan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 22 Feb 2013 11:37:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4175</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4171</link><description><![CDATA[HI EDEN- I am so glad that you are beginning to love yourself! The Four Declarations is a great tool to find the attitude/vibration of Self-Love inside you- and to keep that love growing. A great "cross-training" self-love exercise is the "Eyes of Love" practice, which I have also published on this site. It complements The Four Declarations and can be used together or alternately.
Regarding the inability to say your name and thereby begin the exercise- I've seen that before. You may be aware that I'm a Body-Oriented Psychotherapist (practicing in the Core/Bioenergetic style) and a number of my clients have been "stuck" temporarily in the same way you are. I have found two solutions that have always worked so far.
The first is a trick from my Bioenergetic training. If there is something you can't say, there is an emotional/energetic block preventing the words from coming out. That emotional block is accompanied by physical tensions- in this case, the muscles in your throat/tongue/mouth which govern speaking. That energy block and physical tension needs to be released so you can speak your name. How? Try this- 3 times, scream out your name (into a pillow so as not to scare the neighbors!) as loud and long as you possibly can. You can do this either facing the mirror or not- it doesn't matter. Then try proceeding with the exercise.
If a few tries of this technique doesn't work- do the exercise without using your name. Then the next time, repeat the energetic release of the screaming and then again try to say your name in a kind, caring way to yourself during the exercise. Pretty soon you'll be able to do it without a problem. Good luck and never give up in your work to love yourself. You are sure to succeed and deeply transform how life feels to you if you stay devoted and persistent. LOTS OF LOVE- BRIAN
P.S. Cool name (-;<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 5:57 pm, Tue 19th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 19 Feb 2013 17:57:49 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4171</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4176</link><description><![CDATA[Thanks so much for the advice.  I'll give it a try and check out the other article you mentioned.  Its amazing how much our attitude and energies that we project onto ourselves by ourselves can affect the world around us. Thanks again and much love back to you.
~E<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Eden at 11:20 am, Sat 23rd Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sat, 23 Feb 2013 11:20:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4176</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4177</link><description><![CDATA[HI EDEN- You're very welcome. "Its amazing how much our attitude and energies that we project onto ourselves by ourselves can affect the world around us." Amen to that! BRIAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan at 2:51 pm, Sat 23rd Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sat, 23 Feb 2013 14:51:02 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4177</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4170</link><description><![CDATA[I love this article and am finally in a place where I can accept that my lack of self-love is the root of my problems.  I am finally ready to make changes and take the steps necessary to begin loving myself.  My question is this, what do I do when all I can do is stare into the mirror.  I never thought the hardest part of this exercise would be to say my name.  I just stare.  I want to begin to heal and love myself, but all I do is stare.  My mouth doesn't move, no sounds come out.  I feel like I should be able to do this and I am so anxious to get started but yet I cant do something as simple as say my own name (which by the way is Eden, seriously, pretty cool huh).  I know this process is not going to be an easy one.  Any advice?<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Eden at 12:26 pm, Tue 19th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 19 Feb 2013 12:26:06 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4170</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4169</link><description><![CDATA[HI ISHAN- Actually, I must firmly disagree with you in two primary ways. First- Self-Love as I have experienced it and describe it is not a "first step" toward 'God Realization" whatever that may mean . It is simply accepting, warmly loving and happily believing in who you are, beyond self-doubt and self-criticism.
Nothing else is necessary for a person to achieve inner peace and a radiant and permanent happiness. And yes- peace with oneself, and love/acceptance toward oneself, naturally leads to love and peace toward others. No notion of a "God"- either as a conscious being or a universal energy- is necessary.  
Secondly, I have found that when we harbor a concept of rejecting our body as unreal- not our real self- this is because we are "running away" from our emotions- and especially the pain we experienced as children for which there was no understanding and support. . It is my observation that philosophers and religious thinkers adopt the ideology that "we are not our bodies" because our bodies are where our feelings are. And to become numb to their emotional pain- sadness, fear, guilt, shame, unfulfilled longing etc.- they withdraw contact with their bodies and emotions by saying to themselves- "I am not my body, I am not my feelings, I am only the energy of God" or some other non-physical concept. But it amounts to the same thing- an abandonment of one's body and one's  real self to escape one's emotional pain. This is actually fear and hatred of oneself- not Self-Love at all. But when you have done the work of re-connecting to your body and feelings and validating their reality and rightness, you let go of the defense mechanism of "I am not my body"- which is a way of being "stuck in your head/stuck in thoughts and mental concepts". You recognize- because you are no longer "stuck in your head"- that your body and feelings are the real you. And you love your body because you love yourself!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 8:16 pm, Sun 17th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 17 Feb 2013 20:16:04 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4169</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4357</link><description><![CDATA[yes, this ir exactly right...we must get away from this "i am not my body stuff" it's that old sham duality that descartes infected us with. consciousness is superior to the body is a limiting belief...it limits us from seeing the astonishing miracle of the body

even the basic precepts of quantum physics or neurophysiology tell us that consciousness is imbued in the body...the two cannot be separated....there is something called neuroception...check it out..

we have to stop being afraid of the body...the body is amazing and a miracle and the only way we can experience the simple joys of a tender loving kiss or hugging our children or freinds with deep love is through the simple sensation of holding, touching with our bodies...

if you pushh that "not my body" idea further...you can then ask is anyone ready to give that up and live in pure consciousness with no identity with  bodily self...that's called schizophrenia...

if you go deeper into any understanding of consciousness and the body you will see that it is impossible to distinguish between the two and love is merely an expression of this unity we feel between the two and it is god/godess/higher power or whatever you wish to call it...

still, i love bryan's message and he is 'bang on' with the self-love thing and god bless...<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by max miller at 10:57 am, Thu 22nd Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (max miller)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 22 Aug 2013 10:57:09 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4357</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4358</link><description><![CDATA[HI MAX- Thank you so much for your very insightful comments. I completely agree with you! Here is where ALL the "I am not my body" ideologies come from- whether in Buddhism, Hinduism, Christianity, various Western philosophies etc. People adopt the idea that their real self isn't their body because THEIR BODIES ARE IN PAIN. And the core of this pain is stored-up emotional stress- fear, sadness, the unfulfilled longing for love, guilt, shame, despair etc. Most of this powerful anguish originates during infancy, childhood and adolescence. We may be actively traumatized (sexual abuse, spanking, shaming, criticism, deprivation of core instinctual needs like breastfeeding/affectionate touching and holding etc.) or our natural self-expressions (sexuality, aggression/anger/self-assertion, need for empathy/love/mirroring) are misunderstood or punished. This dysfunctional treatment of children's  authentic selves and core human needs- which is still being passed from generation to generation in what i call "the cycle of pain"- is widespread through all societies and cultures. The suffering that builds up with no outlet- because the parents can't see the harm they are causing, having been treated that way themselves- has no place to go and is stored unconsciously in the body. Our bodies then become a source of endless pain rather than THE FOUNTAIN OF GOOD FEELINGS THEY ARE MEANT TO BE. Thus the philosophy that "we are not our bodies" develops as a defense mechanism to distance oneself even further from the body and its/our buried pain. This is why, in my teachings on Self-Love, I explain that a flight from our bodies and our emotional pain is an escape from our real selves. And that Unconditional Self-Love involves re-connecting to our bodies, feeling our buried pain- and completely releasing it! This transforms our body from a place of endless anguish to a source of deep peace and happiness. Hell is transformed into heaven! Because when our bodies and emotions- our Core Self- are free of the burden of buried pain, the joyful "hum" of the life-force flows through us freely. It feels great just to be alive! And we are restored to our natural state of physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. Makes sense? LOTS OF LOVE- BRIAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan at 7:43 pm, Thu 22nd Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 22 Aug 2013 19:43:25 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4358</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4096</link><description><![CDATA[HI DAWN- I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time right now! Try to remember that we all- no exceptions!- win and lose in our efforts and that this need not shake our core confidence at all. Why? Because our self-confidence needs to be grounded not in external failures and successes, but by our love and belief in WHO WE ARE INSIDE! The beauty and total validity of DAWN, in other words (-: Using the exercise regularly, over a long time, will help you see and truly feel that way about yourself more and more. So keep going! Why do you cry when you do the exercise? I always tell my students that when the exercise makes them cry- they are doing it exactly right! Crying means the way you are talking to yourself is reaching and opening your heart. When the heart opens deeply, there are almost always tears. The love you are giving yourself is a HUGE relief to your heart and your entire being, and the tears are both tears of relief AND the pain/sadness of living without deep self-love coming out of you to be released. Makes sense? LOTS OF LOVE- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 5:33 am, Sun 6th Jan 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 06 Jan 2013 05:33:48 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4096</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4051</link><description><![CDATA[Bryan,

I have a question.  When I start to do this I automatically feel like crying.  Why?  I have had an event happen that has seemed to rip the carpet out from under me so to speak.  My self confidence seems lost now and I am struggling with letting it go and being afraid of it happening again at the same time.  I want to move on and feel stuck and lost in fear.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Dawn at 11:28 am, Thu 3rd Jan 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Dawn)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 03 Jan 2013 11:28:31 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4051</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4160</link><description><![CDATA[Dear Dawn,  we tend to think of ourselves as material beings, but we are not.  Matter is dead.  Spiritual energy is conscious.  As long as the spiritual energy is inside the body it displays the symptoms of life, through the material body.  When consciousness is projected through the material senses and the mind it causes us to identify with the body as ourselves.  I am not this body.  You are not that body.  We are eternal spiritual beings, indestructable.  Taking one body after another, lifetime after lifetime, our karma, our sewing and reaping will follow us.  it is all for our education, our upliftment.  But if we identify with this mortal frame, we are puzzled by such experiences. 

There are different ways to develope love for ourselves.  Bryan's ways are as powerful as your ability to apply them.  And as we develope real love for ourselves, no amount of carpet ripping will be able to remove our sense of balance.  When we identify with the body as "me", we also develope a sense of what is "mine", such as this position, this relationship, this wealth, and therefore can be very disturbed by these changes.  But material life means constant change.  Nothing here is actually permanent.  It will all be ripped away by nature's laws.  

The solution therefore is not a stronger carpet with larger nails holding it in place.  The solution is in coming to realize ourselves as not material beings, but as spiritual beings.  This can be experienced directly.  And this experience is a function of self-love.  The higher we raise the level of our ability to feel love for ourselves, the easier it is to feel and comprehend ourselves as spiritual beings.  

And that is the beginning of an unbeatable sense of security.  Because now we can have something that cannot be disturbed by any material condition or circumstance.  No one can take it from us.  

If you practice what Bryon is so kindly sharing, with an eye towards experiencing your spiritual essence which is 360 degree love, shining in and shining outward, you will be able to move forward without any fear, knowing that the inner wealth that you possess can never be harmed.  

We all have to begin from where we are.  And taking those first steps that Bryan is kindly sharing - that is within your power.<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Ishan das at 2:45 pm, Tue 5th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Ishan das)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:45:28 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4160</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3703</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you Bryan. I hit the rock bottom yesterday in realising how much I DO NOT love myself and I am desparate to change it.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Lena at 1:37 am, Fri 13th Jul 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Lena)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 13 Jul 2012 01:37:46 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3703</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3705</link><description><![CDATA[HI LENA- You are most welcome! I had to hit rock bottom too, before I realized that I didn't love myself and was terribly unhappy as a result. The growth I have accumulated in practicing self-love is amazing and has forever changed my life. Most of all- I feel so much better, every day! You will too, I am sure, as you learn to warmly accept yourself, and see the beauty of who you are. Use the "Four Declarations" and other practices I have developed every day, and stay with it with persistence. You will feel your love for yourself growing, slowly and surely. And your inner peace and happiness growing as a blessed "side-effect". You deserve love- and most of all from yourself! LOVE- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 5:01 am, Fri 13th Jul 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 13 Jul 2012 05:01:17 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3705</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3647</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you.

I've recently recognized the urgent need for practices like this in my life. Though every resource has helped, your writing stands out because it is practical and to the point, which is a great help when just starting out. How could one not appreciate that?<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Evan at 7:11 pm, Tue 5th Jun 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Evan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 05 Jun 2012 19:11:28 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3647</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3622</link><description><![CDATA[You are very welcome! You might also want to check out the Self-Esteem meditation, and add it to your self-love practice. Good luck and never give up on growing your love for and belief in yourself.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by BRYAN at 7:32 pm, Tue 15th May 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 15 May 2012 19:32:49 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3622</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3621</link><description><![CDATA[Thanks I really needed that after a talk with some folks in my inner circle i knew i needed to practice more slef love.
This is such a blessing!
Thank U !<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Now I Love Me at 6:27 pm, Tue 15th May 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Now I Love Me)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 15 May 2012 18:27:02 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3621</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3613</link><description><![CDATA[Love this article. Look at sugarfreetv's youtube channel.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by callmemiss at 7:44 am, Wed 9th May 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (callmemiss)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 09 May 2012 07:44:27 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3613</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3501</link><description><![CDATA[My God, Bryan!  You are brilliant! I've only just read this article for the first time and feel like I've found my pot of gold!  Thank you!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Daisy Mae at 8:02 am, Fri 13th Apr 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Daisy Mae)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 13 Apr 2012 08:02:22 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3501</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3502</link><description><![CDATA[HI DAISY MAE- You are very welcome. Your pot of gold is truly..... YOU! Loving and believing in who you are..... So I'm thrilled my blog is helping inspire you toward the Self-Love you need and deserve. Go for it! LOTS OF LOVE- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 4:40 pm, Fri 13th Apr 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 13 Apr 2012 16:40:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3502</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3383</link><description><![CDATA[in a way it is the same as self eetesm dont you think ? and when does loving myself become selfishness ? what are the limits? because a selfish person loves and cares for himself too.wont self loving come in conflict with religion? (the fact that it is about you loving God and other people but not yourself) and ultimatly do you think Gandhi loved himself ?yep thats alot of questions lol, i cant see at the moment the difference between self love and self eetesm.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Buket at 8:42 pm, Wed 29th Feb 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Buket)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 29 Feb 2012 20:42:27 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3383</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3382</link><description><![CDATA[in a way it is the same as self eetesm dont you think ? and when does loving myself become selfishness ? what are the limits? because a selfish person loves and cares for himself too.wont self loving come in conflict with religion? (the fact that it is about you loving God and other people but not yourself) and ultimatly do you think Gandhi loved himself ?yep thats alot of questions lol, i cant see at the moment the difference between self love and self eetesm.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Buket at 8:42 pm, Wed 29th Feb 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Buket)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 29 Feb 2012 20:42:24 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3382</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3503</link><description><![CDATA[HI BUKET- Sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. And thanks for all the questions, they are great ones!                                                                      To begin, the type of self-love I'm describing leads to greater compassion and caring toward others. It opens our hearts in the deepest way, and an open heart is instinctively kind to others. The "Golden Rule" (which in many ways is the bedrock of all religions) is to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Have you ever wondered why this is so hard for people to do, so much of the time? It is because we don't love ourselves enough- aren't kind, tender, accepting, warm enough to ourselves- so being kind and loving to others involves giving something that we ourselves are starved for. If you understand this, you will see how the practice and achievement of healing self-love (as I have defined it) is fully in service of the "Golden Rule".                                                                        Self-Love, the way I describe and define it, always leads to greater inner peace and emotional security within us, and more happy, caring relationships with others. What you see in selfish people is the result of deep feelings of insecurity-  fear, in other words. Very selfish people don't feel loved- by themselves or anyone else. They are greedy, grasping and insensitive because they are afraid and feel isolated. This is the exact opposite of what the practice of Self-Love creates. Do you see what I mean?                                                                                                       Lastly, self-esteem is one aspect of Self-Love- and an important one! But there are many other, equally important aspects to Self-Love as I am describing/defining it. For example- self-nurturance (the ability to see and feel what you need, and give it to yourself), self-validation (the ability to see and affirm the basic "rightness" of who you are), and a deep feeling of warmth and tenderness toward yourself.                                                      I hope this begins to answer your questionsThe main thing, always, is to try out the practice. Work with it for a few months. I guarantee that it won't turn you into a self-absorbed, selfish person. But, rather, into a kinder, more caring one- toward yourself and others! LOTS OF LOVE- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 5:31 pm, Fri 13th Apr 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 13 Apr 2012 17:31:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment3503</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4159</link><description><![CDATA[Really loving ourselves never results in selfishness.  Real self-esteem does not mean "me first".  Real love for ourselves automatically results in "my cup runneth over", and one cannot but help wanting to share our love with others.  To have love for ourselves does not come in conflict with religion - rather, until we actually feel love for ourselves we cannot feel God's presence.  God is many things, and one of those things is that God is omni-present.  But we cannot sense an recciprocate with that presence until we begin to vibrate at God's loving frequency.  It is only then that we can resonate with that Divine Presence and begin to dwell in it, abide in it.  

Your concept of self esteem and self-love as miserly self-centeredness is a misonception.  Real self-love is not at all about the materialistic orientation of getting "things".  It is love for the sake of loving.  A loving person may be able to open many doors that may lead to material opulence, but the rule of the universe is that the more we share with others, the more good things come back to us.  

Some people are enthusiastic for developing self-love because they want more materialistic so-called success.  But the real wealth of self-love is that it is actually the first step towards God realization, wherein one can sense the all-loving presence of God's love for us.  when we come to that pleteau, we understand that there is nothing greater in life to be gained, and material success and failure become totally insignificant to us.  But as we desire to share this experience with others, all the necessities of life come forward without separate endeaver.<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Ishan das at 2:14 pm, Tue 5th Feb 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Ishan das)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:14:34 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment4159</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2806</link><description><![CDATA[By golly I'm glad I stumbled on this, the last 3 weeks I have been so down  so busy making sure every one was happy around me that, this whole time I gave my power away beacuse I forgot the truth of who I am and how special, important, smart, intellegent, intune, loved,loving I am, hec I even forgot how beautiful my face is and how hot my body is to the point I am actually starving. Thanks for the reminder! Tomorrow I'm back to the real me full of life and love for myself and work can kick themselves for not allowing me  to just be and trying to force me to change the awesome me I am!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Krissylounoparents14 at 5:51 am, Thu 10th Feb 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Krissylounoparents14)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 10 Feb 2011 05:51:34 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2806</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2812</link><description><![CDATA[HI KRISSYLOU! Thanks for replying to the blog. I hope you try working with the exercise for a while, it will help you hang on to your positive feelings toward yourself. Stay strong, keep seeing your beauty inner and outer, and never ever starve yourself for self-love -- or food either (-: LOTS OF LOVE -- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 5:52 am, Sun 13th Feb 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 13 Feb 2011 05:52:27 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2812</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2803</link><description><![CDATA[I am teaching a "writing a love letter to yourself" class for valentines day and this info was fantastic!  Thanks so much for this beautiful service to humanity!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by alligatorjane at 5:11 am, Sun 6th Feb 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (alligatorjane)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 06 Feb 2011 05:11:11 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2803</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2804</link><description><![CDATA[Hi alligatorjane -- You're welcome! I'm so glad you are incorporating love for oneself into Valentine's Day, great idea. It is really true that we can love and accept our beloved, our friends, our family members only to the depth and degree that we love and accept ourselves.
For some reason, loving, accepting and celebrating oneself has never been an important part of any religion or spirituality. And yet, without this open-hearted relationship with yourself, inner peace and lasting happiness are elusive if not impossible. I hope that my long struggle to love and believe in myself, and the understanding and compassion (beginning with self-compassion!) that has been born from it, helps light the way for many others to see that it is not "selfish" to love oneself but rather the ultimate act of kindness. And that the vibration of kindness toward ourselves is the most authentic and convincing way to spread kindness in the world. LOTS OF LOVE -- BRIAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 6:24 am, Sun 6th Feb 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 06 Feb 2011 06:24:32 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment2804</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[SELF-LOVE MEDITATION:"THE FOUR DECLARATIONS"]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/1835/1/SELF-LOVE-MEDITATIONTHE-FOUR-DECLARATIONS/Page1.html#Comment1625</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you Bryan. I want to help someone right now and you are helping me.<br/><br/>
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