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<channel><title><![CDATA[Blog4Change.org - Comments for article: THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org</link><description /><language>en-us</language><copyright><![CDATA[http://www.blog4change.org]]></copyright><generator>N/A</generator><webMaster>webmaster@blog4change.org</webMaster><lastBuildDate>Tue, 09 Jun 2026 10:09:45 UTC</lastBuildDate><ttl>20</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4353</link><description><![CDATA[HI CHUCK- I love your phrase, "How to responsibly not take responsibility for your life". Well done! Yes- we are absolutely NOT responsible for the core pain we carry- the shame/fear/guilt/sorrow/self-criticism/self-doubt. Nor are we responsible for the self-defeating patterns that drag us down. Those are both the result of childhood conditioning. But- and I'm sure you agree- from loving ourselves and wanting to give ourselves happiness, we ARE responsible for healing those burdens. AND WE CAN! I'd love to get you links- why don't you "friend" me on Facebook- I'm easy to find. BEST- BRIAN<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Bryan at 5:49 am, Tue 6th Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 06 Aug 2013 05:49:10 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4353</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4352</link><description><![CDATA[Hi Bryan,

I believe we are on the same page here.  I understand your concerns about my wording.  I think we have had some similar experiences in not blaming ourselves and allowing for the emotion stuck in our bodies to be felt.  I wrote a book about this and have posted a few talks YouTube videos.  How can I get the links to you?  I'd love for you to see them.

In part 2 of my book I have a chapter, "How to responsibly not take responsibility for your life".    It wasn't anyone's fault!


lots of love to you my friend,

Chuck<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Chuck at 12:58 am, Tue 6th Aug 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Chuck)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 06 Aug 2013 00:58:31 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4352</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4345</link><description><![CDATA[Bryan,
What a beautifully written reply to your friend.  Isn’t it funny that the last thing we will try is to love and accept ourselves?  I find it so strange that for 46~ years, I looked anywhere except inside myself.  Who can give us love but ourselves?  And it isn’t even as much a conscious effort as it is to notice the voices and feelings that are so sure we are unloved are actually the very thing that we need to love.  Once they feel heard they quite down.  I rejected pieces of me around 3 or 5 and then went on a journey to make them be quite and prove them (my fears wrong).  When all along my thoughts and feelings only wanted to have their say so they could go back to enjoying themselves.

Chuck Comstock
Author of "The End of Loneliness"<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Chuck at 10:55 pm, Tue 30th Jul 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Chuck)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 30 Jul 2013 22:55:43 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4345</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4346</link><description><![CDATA[HI CHUCK- Thank you so much for your compliments and your thoughts about loving ourselves! There is one thing that I would like to bring your attention to, which is all-important in seeing the truth about our lives and finding the unconditional self-acceptance and love that we need to be happy. You say: "I rejected pieces of me around 3 or 5....." Simply put- you DIDN'T REJECT YOURSELF. Rather, your family either rejected or at the least couldn't fully accept authentic parts of you, and to please them and retain their approval (which a child CANNOT survive without) you adopted their view of yourself. This is as far from "rejecting yourself' as it is possible to get. Do you understand what I am pointing at? If we buy into the self-blaming illusion that we were the ones who rejected ourselves we 1. maintain an attitude of self-blame that is totally undeserved 2. we will leave enormously powerful- and painful!- emotions trapped in our body and unconscious minds, which relate to the pain we actually went through when we weren't fully accepted by our parents 3. we won't be able to mourn the early loss of unconditional acceptance by our parents, and in so doing finally heal the deepest sorrow we carry inside. Long story short, I urge you to consider these two mantras, which are radically self-compassionate and universally true for children everywhere- YOU DIDN'T REJECT YOURSELF and IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT. KEEP LOVING YOURSELF! BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan at 5:00 am, Wed 31st Jul 2013]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 31 Jul 2013 05:00:18 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4346</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3399</link><description><![CDATA[TO THE BLOG4CHANGE SITE ADMINISTRATOR- Yesterday and today my various blogs have come under attack by someone (I believe it's the same person) logging in under different names. Is there any way to delete spam comments, or comments meant only to disrupt the integrity of the site?
TO FELLOW BLOGGERS- Is there a way to email the Site Administrator? So far I haven't figured out how to do that, or if it is even possible.Please let me know- thanks!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by BRYAN at 7:01 am, Thu 1st Mar 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 01 Mar 2012 07:01:35 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3399</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3398</link><description><![CDATA[It's quite ilibplecaxne isn't it. If they have any sense I have the feeling that they will have reset it by the weekend. At least set this as the default and give users the option of re-enabling the old style replies via their settings. Maybe a bit of Bernie Ecclestone style smoke and mirrors stuff is going on   do something that causes a rumpus and creates lots of press and then suddenly change your mind and start saying the exact opposite a week later<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Magda at 6:37 am, Thu 1st Mar 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Magda)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 01 Mar 2012 06:37:07 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3398</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3246</link><description><![CDATA[HI KDR- You are very welcome. And thank you for your message and for sharing what you are going through. I very much sympathize with that ache in your heart, I've been there myself as so many of us have.                            It is very common for a breakup- especially from a long term relationship- to strip away our emotional defenses and reveal to us any places inside where our self-love and confidence need further growth. Bereft of the connection of the relationship- even a troubled one! - the stored-up loneliness from our whole life can come forth and be very difficult to face. Your instinct to search for the healing power of loving yourself, at such a moment, is right-on and will prove to be a life-changer. I hope that your work with yourself heals all that loneliness and fills your heart with the happiness of complete self-acceptance. And the confidence of really feeling and knowing how valid- how beautiful and "right"- you are! LOTS OF LOVE- BRYAN<br/><br/>
Comment posted by BRYAN at 6:43 am, Tue 6th Dec 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 06 Dec 2011 06:43:50 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3246</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3241</link><description><![CDATA[I have not experienced what I am experienceing now. The feelings of loneliness and feeling unloveable have never been so much in my mind and thoughts..I have always felt like a pretty confident and self loving person but not now..The break up of an already unhealthy relationship forces a 38 year old woman to look at herself and believe that I havent chosen very well this far in my life for a reason. I stumbled onto this blog/website on google because I typed in "self love meditations"..I feel so bad right now my heart hurts but I am so unbelievably happy to read this for so many reasons..For that I say thank you for posting..That last relationship ended 2 weeks ago and I signed up an hour ago to an online dating site..I am going to put that on hold and focus on self love and development..Thank you soo much this has been an eye opening read for me..Thank you<br/><br/>
Comment posted by KDR at 5:41 pm, Sun 4th Dec 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (KDR)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 04 Dec 2011 17:41:25 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3241</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment2866</link><description><![CDATA[The feeling of loneliness leads me to your blog...and this is something that would aid me in dealing with my loneliness blues. This is a piece of inspiration and I thank you for sharing this. 
Loneliness is and will always be a feeling that we would experience from time to time,  the thing that makes it difficult is when we let ourselves be succumbed by it. 
Again thank you, you reminded me not to let myself be swallowed by loneliness. 
Cheers! :)<br/><br/>
Comment posted by anithingunderthesun at 3:53 am, Wed 16th Mar 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (anithingunderthesun)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 16 Mar 2011 03:53:35 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment2866</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment2876</link><description><![CDATA[HI Anithingunderthesun -- Thank you for responding to the blog about loneliness. I'm so glad you found support and inspiration from it. You are right -- we all feel lonely from time to time, this is normal and part of being human. But what is not necessary is that chronic, desperate loneliness that so many of us struggle with. That darkness can be banished forever by a deep and loving connection with oneself. Being fully connected to ourselves --  to our bodies and spirits -- fills us with good feelings, keeps our faith and optimism strong. And renews our strength every day to reach out to others --  to give and to receive -- in a way that quenches our thirst for closeness and connection. And love. KEEP REACHING OUT - AND GOING WITHIN! BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 3:24 pm, Sun 20th Mar 2011]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 20 Mar 2011 15:24:03 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment2876</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1988</link><description><![CDATA[your blog is hopefully going to help me start my life again - nothing else has worked - and thanks for all who share their thoughts and feelings here - you are all very honest and its good to know that i'm not alone afterall -take care. xx<br/><br/>
Comment posted by new life at 9:57 am, Wed 21st Apr 2010]]></description><author>no@spam.com (new life)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 21 Apr 2010 09:57:40 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1988</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1993</link><description><![CDATA[Dear New Life -- I'm very glad that what I've shared is helping you find your direction toward healing. And the direction of true positive change is always inward, to a loving connection with yourself. No relationship with another can fill the inner "hole" of loneliness where we reject our own emotions, criticize and doubt ourselves, and therefore are empty. But a relationship between two people, both of whom love and believe in themselves, can be incredibly joyful and enriching. I hope you put your faith first and foremost in the quest to overcome loneliness by really connecting to YOU. Then the relationship with another can be what it is meant to be -- not a co-dependent attempt to fill each others' inner voids, but a true sharing of hearts. Keep going!<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 5:38 pm, Wed 21st Apr 2010]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 21 Apr 2010 17:38:36 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1993</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1805</link><description><![CDATA[I just want to say thank you for the inspring words.  I was ready to join a dating website today in search of a partner to fill a void.  But something stopped me and instead I put the word "blogs"  in google.  I found this site and read your blog.  For me, this is like the beginning to recognizing myself and it's time for me to start healing.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by newday at 3:40 pm, Thu 1st Apr 2010]]></description><author>no@spam.com (newday)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 01 Apr 2010 15:40:37 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1805</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1012</link><description><![CDATA[Hey Bryan. Very well said indeed. Personally, i have struggled with the definition of Love. Hope you dont' mind i share a bit of what i've learned. There are two distinct 'types' of love. One (the one most often referred to in relationships) is mind based. It is a romantic notion of a feeling that gets stirred. It is somewhat "unreal" in that it can cause both blissful feelings and heartwrenching sadness depending on perspective and outside influence. The other love, which is in essence "god's love"...is simply the currency of heaven. It's the glue that binds our souls to those of all of existence.

Namaste<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Frank at 1:55 pm, Mon 7th Dec 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Frank)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:55:34 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment1012</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment930</link><description><![CDATA[This  article/story should be shared with everyone, as in some way we all have had a feeiling of loneliness, at least for a second.  This story is teaching us the value of caring for ourselves, first.  This doesn't mean by any means that we are selfish, but this is the only way we can help others. Today is Thanksgiving, and yesterday my teen asked me why I am approaching the discipline issues he has negative?  I explained, but then I thought to myself, those maybe valid reasons, but why approach them negatively.  I was thinking that being nice, being inspirational/or positive has not worked out in the last year, but then I had to think back and realized that there has been improvements.  I guess I thought wow, I myself was able to pull myself through life, by literally putting food in the table to making enough money so he can dream bigger.  If money wasn't an issue what would you like to be or do?  I didn't realize he isn't ready.  So I need to let go and make the law of attraction work for me, sit back and wait for my clear intent not action to clear through.  As he may not have that passion, obssession clear pupose to move him in the right direction yet.  I do know that when you have money you have more options to choose from, and I was trying to push him in the direction of starting with the basic core values.  I diagnosed with Cancer critical  Dec08, was told I was going to be on disability and treatment through Aug09, but I was on disability for only five weeks (I have a two hour communte through a windy freeway - Santa Cruz Mountains, CA).  I was off treatment by Apr-09 and the Cancer was gone.  I need to continue to take care of myself as I have still a 7 year old boy.  When my teen is ready to live the life he inspires about (by the way this is the reason I get on his case, he talks to me about his PROSPERIOUS ASPIRATIONS) hopefully I will still be with the ability to help him.  When he wakes up I will apologize.

Keep up the posts.

Keep the post going<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Victoria at 10:26 am, Thu 26th Nov 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Victoria)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 26 Nov 2009 10:26:53 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment930</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment858</link><description><![CDATA[Bryan, thank you for this moving post. Deep down I know and recognize everything you've written... but having wandered a long way from "home", I find it a daily struggle to keep the faith and keep trusting in myself. Your post is helping me to take those few more steps forward.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Liv at 12:47 am, Tue 17th Nov 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Liv)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:47:43 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment858</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment573</link><description><![CDATA[I stumbled across your site by accident Bryan and I am so glad that I did. You are like a light in the darkness, your words make so much sense and I hope I can start putting them into action. Keep being who you are, you are making more of a difference in peoples lives that you realise. You make me realise we are not totally alone.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Sharon at 3:18 pm, Thu 17th Sep 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Sharon)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 17 Sep 2009 15:18:45 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment573</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment496</link><description><![CDATA[Greetings Bryan,
I wanted to let you know I deeply appreciate your post. It is very heartwarming to see that you discovered the "source" of your loneliness and that by "rebuilding your life's foundation through self-love" you have discovered you are no longer lonely. You discovered a very important key. We must, first and foremost, be our own best friend, love ourselves, heal our wounds, complete ourselves so that when we enter a relationship we are a whole person. We have learned how to fill ourselves up and don't look to the other person to "complete" us. With that said, I honor the deep introspection and inner work you have done/continue to do. In the American culture it can be difficult for men to begin a journey down this road. May more men be inspired by your beautiful story to look deep within and heal their own wounds.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Liisa at 4:54 pm, Mon 10th Aug 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Liisa)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Mon, 10 Aug 2009 16:54:43 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment496</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment415</link><description><![CDATA[Bryan: As a songwriter often lyrics want to cry out loneliness(Roy Orbison and his Crying, Only the Lonely, etc) but yet that which
seems lonely often is reborn as a moment of introspection, a touch
of spirituality...<br/><br/>
Comment posted by John Kitsco at 9:05 pm, Thu 23rd Jul 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (John Kitsco)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:05:24 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment415</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment311</link><description><![CDATA[Bryan this is one of the most beautiful and heartfelt things I've ever read. This is going to sound crazy, but when I was down and filled with despair one night I heard a voice. It was a male voice I didn't recognize. The voice told me to be my own best friend. It melted my heart and I began to cry. It changed my life. Loneliness is a thing of the past considering I'm with my best friend all of the time.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Jude at 7:41 pm, Fri 3rd Jul 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Jude)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 03 Jul 2009 19:41:27 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment311</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment327</link><description><![CDATA[Hi Jude -- Thanks so much for your beautiful compliment about the piece! And I must say how touched I am by your story which is so much like my own. I believe that each of us heard the voice of our own soul, just when we needed it the most. Thank goodness we listened with our hearts! Sharing our stories of self-rescue is going to help others listen to their own souls when their time comes. That makes what we've done for ourselves even more meaningful and beautiful. Brian<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 8:33 am, Sun 5th Jul 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sun, 05 Jul 2009 08:33:27 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment327</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment189</link><description><![CDATA[I have tears in my eyes after reading this.  There's such truth and compassion in your words.  It's amazing.  Thank you for posting this letter, and your friend is very blessed to have you in her life.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by SimplyRaw VeganDoll at 10:13 pm, Fri 26th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (SimplyRaw VeganDoll)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Fri, 26 Jun 2009 22:13:56 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment189</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment194</link><description><![CDATA[Dear SRVD -- Thanks so much for reading the blog and letting my words reach your heart. It's an honor that I deeply appreciate. Much Love -- Bryan<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 6:52 am, Sat 27th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Sat, 27 Jun 2009 06:52:15 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment194</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment135</link><description><![CDATA[Brian, i agree with you for people who are not there yet, but i am.
i have so much love to give, and im surrounded by people who will  
not accept it . they are not healthy emotionally, and i have no chance to change them, but  it still leaves me lonely.    mamajules<br/><br/>
Comment posted by mamajules at 7:31 pm, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (mamajules)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 19:31:24 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment135</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment137</link><description><![CDATA[Hi Mamajules -- Self-love and self discovery is a process that unfolds and deepens over time. It is not unusual to go through periods of letting go of unjoyful relationships and then experiencing a time lag as positive connections flow toward you. I discovered that the empty time was not a tragedy but actually an opportunity to focus more on learning to fill myself and make myself happy. An "advanced class" , so to speak, in self-nurturing. I took the big leap and trusted the flow of my life and that trust opened up even more peace and happiness. If you are meant to be alone (but not necessarily lonely!) for a while longer, this trust in the flow of your life may restore peace and optimism. May it be so! Bryan<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 6:55 am, Thu 18th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Thu, 18 Jun 2009 06:55:26 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment137</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3617</link><description><![CDATA[sorry tho I accept we must attempt to come to terms with ourselves and determine our lives i really take issue with the idea that we can make ourselves happy totally.In a society which penalises the single big time economically, socially , in adopting kids, you name it, how the  hell can we be happy? how can one be really happy knowing one will never find love?
that does not mean idealising love or having unrealistic expectations of what another can do for you but even so?<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by cayte else at 7:01 am, Tue 15th May 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (cayte else)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 15 May 2012 07:01:30 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3617</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3618</link><description><![CDATA[HI CAYTE- Thank you for reading the blog, and for sharing your thoughts. Well, the essence of what I've discovered is that the way you relate to yourself creates your basic mood and experience of life. I know this sounds remarkable in a society that teaches us that happiness is to be found, not from within ourselves, but through externals. Believe me, no one was more amazed to discover that happiness comes from loving and believing in yourself- than I was! When I'm critical of myself, self-doubting, even self-hating, I'm miserable- even if I've got a great relationship, money in the bank, etc.- all the "external" factors. But I can tell you sincerely that there have been times when I was broke, alone, and all my plans weren't working out..... And yet, by how I related to myself- loving and believing in myself, being really warm and kind and encouraging to Bryan- my heart stayed open and therefore my positive feelings of happiness stayed steady. I think that the basic trap we all fall into is to point at conditions "external" to ourselves- our bank account, the state of society, whether or not we are in a loving relationship..... and say, "that's why I don't feel happy, that's the source of my pain and frustration". But I'm encouraging people to look deeper...... to look at how they treat themselves, how much they truly are validating, kind and encouraging toward themselves. Or critical and negative toward themselves! Then, to explore what changes occur in their daily mood, in their feelings about life, when they start giving themselves the love-nurturance-appreciation-validation that they perhaps have never gotten before. All I can tell you is that every single person I've ever known who accepted this challenge and learned to love themselves "from within", experienced a life-changing shift in their daily mood and basic feeling-in-life. Even if their "external circumstances" weren't changing much at that time. I hope my words encourage you to give it some effort, and I wish you the very best! BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by BRYAN at 7:48 am, Tue 15th May 2012]]></description><author>no@spam.com (BRYAN)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Tue, 15 May 2012 07:48:45 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment3618</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment133</link><description><![CDATA[Incredible post! It's all so true, it's not about someone making us happy, it's not about the job promotion, or the new car.  We have all the answers to our true happiness within, and as soon as you journey in and find yourself, it's an amazing life.<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Nancy at 5:19 pm, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Nancy)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 17:19:38 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment133</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment134</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you Nancy! The relationship with oneself is THE most important factor in creating happiness. After all, you are there with you 24 hours a day! If you are loving and encouraging in your deepest attitude toward yourself, think of the constant stream of positive energy you experience. That is a         treasure far beyond fame or gold. Bryan<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 6:06 pm, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 18:06:39 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment134</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment129</link><description><![CDATA[Beautiful!  "To thine own self be true, and if this be so, thou can't be false to any man."  If we could all treat ourselves the way we would want others to treat us, then the vice versa would perhaps come more easily?<br/><br/>
Comment posted by thinking hard at 11:09 am, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (thinking hard)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 11:09:59 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment129</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment130</link><description><![CDATA[Hi T.H. -- Thanks for your message. In my experience you are totally right -- as I've loved and accepted myself more and more, I've had so much more love to give others. And I "absorb" the positive energy people send me because my treatment of myself has opened my heart!<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 12:00 pm, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 12:00:46 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment130</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment125</link><description><![CDATA["As I grew in self-love and self-discovery my loneliness faded away. The frustration and emptiness of waiting for another had been replaced by the satisfaction and completion of connecting to me. Before my awakening I could never have imagined this state of grace beyond loneliness. This joy and peace are very real and your own grace is waiting inside you to be discovered"

WOW! Excellent Post! This is so profound!<br/><br/>
Comment posted by Mary at 6:52 am, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Mary)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 06:52:55 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment125</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment126</link><description><![CDATA[Thank you Mary! It really is true that everything we need to be happy and at peace is already inside us. We just need to love ourselves enough to make the effort to journey within and connect to it. It really is amazing how loneliness fades away as you fill up on all the beauty and energy that you connect to inside yourself. BRYAN<br/><br/>
Reply to Previous Comment by Bryan Eden at 7:01 am, Wed 17th Jun 2009]]></description><author>no@spam.com (Bryan Eden)</author><pubDate><![CDATA[Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:01:42 UTC]]></pubDate><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment126</guid></item><item><title><![CDATA[THE END OF LONELINESS]]></title><link>http://www.blog4change.org/articles/152/1/THE-END-OF-LONELINESS/Page1.html#Comment4785</link><description><![CDATA[I just wish I knew how to do this.<br/><br/>
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