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The Love Dare, My Day 3 and 4
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By Nicole Lamar
Published on 09/10/2009
 
The Love Dare, Day 3 and 4

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The Love Dare, Day 3 and 4
 Now let me take a moment here to clarify, I combined these days into one because they seemed like simple enough tasks.

Day 3 Dare:
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you're not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."

Day 4 Dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anythig you could do for them.

Both of these seemed like simple enough tasks so I combined the two different dares into one day.

For Dare 3- I bought Jacob, my husband, a blender bottle for his protein shakes. It's something small but something he needed that he didn't have that he could use.  I came home from work and put the bottle on the counter and waiter for him to get home. While I was waiting I cleaned up some and did the dishes and some laundry. He came home and did see the bottle and asked.
"Did you buy that?"
"yes."
"Why?"
"So that when you went to go work out you coul take it with you with your protein powder already in it so when you were done you could just stop in a local gas station adn buy a little thing of milk and make your shake instead of having to rush home."
"Oh."
That wasn't exactly the most pleasant conversation I've ever had with my husband but it did the trick.

For Dare 4- I called Jacob around 11:30ish when he'd be out eating lunch. I called him and felt rather silly for calling without a real need to call but did it anyway. This dare did not work out very well however, very soon after answering the phone he was asking me a question about my myspace status and said that some of his friends had blown his phone up about it. He was rather upset, especially considering the status didn't have anything to do with him or us. I didn't get mad nor did I say anything negative about his reaction I just asked why it upset him and what I could say or do to make it better. It was pretty neat how by me staying calm, even though I felt a little attacked, the conversation didn't get worse, in fact it got better and he got calmer too.

I also decided to delete my myspace account because some "haters" keep checking my status and moods and whatever and running behind my back and freaking out about this and that to Jacob so I just wanted to get that piece of drama gone. I don't still use the same email address as when I signed up so I had to settle for deleting as much of the content as I could.