Here is the latest dispatch from women's empowerment Goddess, Mama Gena.
Her School of Womanly Arts
in Manhattan provides a place for women to experience a zesty spin on a
life well lived: honoring all parts of our selves, and grabbing life
with all we've got.
I love her answer to the query below. The idea that our anger,
confusion and pain are sacred parts of our inner lives is very
intriguing to me. That's my jewelled thought for the day.
You can find Mama Gena's books online, or go to her website to learn more about her in-person workshops in NYC. SALUD!
C'mon. Who out there hasn't been knocked flat-out on the floor with
news that has turned your world inside out? Perhaps it was a job loss,
the death of a loved one, or a long held secret revealed. These moments
grab us by the "you-know-what's" and demand to be dealt with. SG Sigi's
question just called out to me to address.
Read on . . .
I am fresh out of 25 year marriage, very recently divorced, and in my
mid-life (turning 50 this month!). I know you have gone through a
similar life situation and come out of it even more fabulous! How'd you
How can one survive and thrive after a difficult breakup/divorce, with
kids or without? How does one move-on and rekindle our fire and
passions after a long relationship is over. How can we rediscover
ourselves and recover from the aftermath of a difficult divorce or the
end of a long term commitment as it's often a time when a woman feels
as if she has lost some of her appeal, self esteem, self confidence,
independence, trust, motivation, spark, appetite, magnetism, etc?
What are some steps we can take to start over and get that fire/vibe
back in light of the daily challenges, let alone fall in love with life
again and then attract that special, healthy, satisfying
In a nutshell, how do we not let ourselves go into a downward spiral,
even during the most difficult times, but rather lift ourselves up
again, as we deserve?
Thank you for your inspiration!
Oh, child. Your question does bring me back. . .way back to that very
special, very sacred mid-divorce feeling of wanting to just lie down in
traffic. Or crawl into bed and never get up. Or simply press the
transporter button and vaporize. Sigh. I feel for you, Sigi!
When I first separated from my ex, I was completely overwhelmed by
everything. How could I raise my daughter, alone? Walk the dog, alone?
Feed all of us? Take care of all of us? I was moving through mud and
Around that time, my friend, Sally gave me a gift of a series of dance
lessons with her husband, Alex. I threw the gift card in the garbage. I
knew I did not have time for such frivolity. But then, a few hours
later, I remembered- "Oh, I am a Sister Goddess! And Sister Goddesses
prioritize pleasure. I have to grab any pleasure offered, whether or
not I feel like it!" And, back I went, to the garbage, and fished out
the card with the free dance lessons, and called Alex. It was a turning
point. And I am beyond grateful to Sally for reminding me of my own
Don't get me wrong- she'd let me have my days in bed. There was
definitely a place for me to honor my grief, rage and despair. But when
I couldn't bear to face one more decision, one more change, one more
by-myself moment, she was there to open the door and let pleasure have
it's turn at spinning me around the dance floor. Everyone should have a
Sally in their life- and in the Sister Goddess Community you will.
So Sigi, the very key step to remember as you wrangle and herd and
shepherd yourself through each day, is that you are my sister, and you
are a goddess. No matter how it feels, right now. And my biggest
recommendation is to keep very close to all of the tools and arts of
the School of Womanly Arts. The reason I created the Mastery Program
was to provide women with the support that they needed, to not only
finesse these life transitions, but, to fly with them.
The answers you seek, the sparks you crave, the magnetism, appeal and
hotness that feels out of reach- they can all be attained gracefully
and with a hell of a lot of humor with the support of a community of
women, committed to their pleasure, and committed to standing for you,
and your desires. When you attend my Intro Class: The Womanly Art of
Reinvention, you will begin to get a glimpse of what is possible for a
woman, when she chooses to use the Tools and Arts to support her life
transition-no matter what it is: divorce, birth of a child, starting a
company, job loss, health scare, cross country move, death of a loved
one, or financial crisis. Whatever it is, this community has seen it
and will stand for you in the face of it.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again- reinvention is not for
sissies- but for a Sister Goddess (like you-like me-like every woman
reading this. . .) it's the stuff of legends.
And you, my dear Sigi, are a legend in the making!
With so much love and pleasure,
Darlings, I swear we each have reinvention in our DNA. It's just one of
the genius things about us women- we are designed to create.